Perspectives

Monday afternoon, I was trying to go help my friend with a project when I hit a patch of ice on the way, skidded and flipped my car. It looks like it will probably be totaled.

I posted the picture to Facebook, since that's what you're supposed to do when you get in an accident (right?).

I am basically fine, no serious damage, except I bumped my head pretty hard when I undid my seatbelt upside down and fell loose. I'm really achy all over, I have some scratches on my wrist (I look so Emo) from broken glass, my wrist hurts from falling on it, and my thumbnail got ripped off below the quick (it really hurts when I type, but lucky you, I'm soldiering on like a little trooper!).

I thanked God and Jesus all the wonderful strangers who stopped and helped me when I was so shaken up; the truck driver who called 911 for me, the two guys who made sure cars didn't have a bigger accident by directing traffic for about 25 minutes, and all the fire and other guys. And even the cop, who was very nice, didn't grill me or make me nervous, and (most importantly) didn't cite me (since it was just an Act of God  unfortunate accident).

So I was standing there waiting for them to flip my car over and tow it, and for my friend to come pick me up so that I could help him with his project (yes, I still helped him out. But he bought me dinner with dessert, so it was all good, lol). And I realized, damn, this could have been so much worse and I took the time to count my blessings evaluate the good things.

I had my seatbelt on. If I hadn't, I might have gotten half thrown out of the window, or otherwise seriously battered or even killed. The seatbelt did a great job to keep that all from happening. So I was grateful to seatbelt designers and makers.

I flipped my car and I was able to sneak out the broken window unassisted. No one else hit my car or me. Thanks awesome strangers!


I had just gotten my first cellphone so I was able to call my friend to come get me. Thanks awesome friend, and thanks to my nifty smart phone and its abilities. Unfortunately I didn't have my husband's cell number programmed in it yet, so I couldn't tell him until later.

And also with my nifty phone I was able to take a picture of my car. Which was good because when I told Butch I had totaled it he refused to believe I was serious.

I thought about accidents such as these, where people end up with broken bones, severed spinal cords, disfigured faces, stitches, pain, or even death. I was really lucky (using the term loosely. I don't believe in luck. But you know what I mean).

Ok, I am sad for my little car which I'd had for about 11 years (and the upcoming expense we now have to deal with). But that's another thing I thought of as I watched them tow it away. That car, a Subaru Outback Impreza Wagon, was awesome. It did its job and kept me safe. It hardly ever had any problems and only really required basic maintenance. So yeah, I'm a bit sad for that. I loved that car. It was safe and practical, my two favorite things in a car.

So here I am, a godless, soulless heathen, and I am not lamenting, I'm not angry or bitter, I'm not feeling sorry for myself. Instead I am appreciating the kindness of people most of whom I will never even know the names of, and the technology created by other nameless people that made things turn out better for me.

How can that be? Aren't I supposed to be an empty, bitter shell, my back turned from the Lord? How can I be handling this without Jesus to comfort me?

Well, I just said it, really. I am a humanist. I celebrate humanity. I derive great comfort and happiness from my positive interactions with wonderful people. Also, I revel in the wonders of what humans can do through science, research and technology. Our big brains and opposable thumbs discover and create awe-inspiring things.

For instance, complex lumps of metal and plastic that move with the press of a foot on a pedal, are easily controlled with one hand, and can even carry heavy loads as well as transport people and other creatures just about anywhere over land relatively safely.

I am rejuvenated daily by the wonders of this universe, and our place in it. There are humans who help me to delight in these things, as my little brain can find the vastness and grandeur of our lonely little planet, not to mention the solar system or the whole expanse of space, to be overwhelmingly awe-inspiring. So thanks to Carl Sagan, Sir Richard Attenborough, Richard Dawkins, Neil deGrasse Tyson, Stephen Hawking and Lawrence Krauss to name just a few, for helping me to appreciate the Cosmos as best I can.

I had this long legged house centipede in my shower for about 3 months this autumn. I turned on the water one day and he popped out of the drain. He stayed in there for the rest of his life, living off of what I do not know. Every day when I took a shower, I would coax him to the other end of the shower, since they drown very easily. He would hide behind the stool I keep my various concoctions on. I felt a bit sad when he died and I didn't see him sitting in there. Not that I expected him to live long, of course, but he was my little shower companion.

I tell you this because I think, if you let yourself, you can find wonder, beauty, exquisite complexity (like my little friend's myriad legs all working together), and so much more in simple things. Add people to the mix (and other animals who have consciousness) and the world just explodes forth with amazing grandeur.

As Carl Sagan said, we are how the Cosmos can know itself. I think of that every day. How exquisitely astounding we are, and how much responsibility we have toward our species and every other living creature on the planet. We are all connected after all. You and I are related to the Tardigrades (water bears) living on the moss on the bricks outside your house. We're even related to the lowliest slime mold. And that's fantastically cool.

I think it's my nature to be in awe of nature, but I also think we can cultivate how we see the world. My worldview is very different now than a mere 10 years ago, partly because I went on a Quest to understand and learn about the Universe and our place in it. I sought out knowledge and let it open doors to wonderful new worlds. It closed doors too, to nonsense, pseudosciences and religions, and that's a good thing because I'd rather have hard truths than comforting delusions (that's another paraphrased Saganism).

I think that's how I can total my car and still find reasons to be grateful when I'm standing on the side of the road amid the broken glass and car guts, my personal things strewn about. I think cultivating a healthy, pragmatic, realistic attitude allows me to face death unblinking.

I don't want to die, and I'm very glad I was so well protected in my little car on Monday so that I didn't have to, but I know that eventually this life will end completely. My atoms will return to the Cosmos and continue their nearly eternal journey. Richard Dawkins said, "Matter flows from place to place, and momentarily comes together to be you. Some people find that thought disturbing. I find the reality thrilling." I couldn't agree more!

There's so much good to find, even if "good" is just a man-made construct. It's still valid and wonderful.

28 comments:

  1. Amazing post. Don't know you really well, just through Facebook & twitter (via Sophie). As an imaging specialist who worked a decade in a Trauma Center, I just want to say; so glad you survived your meeting with Entropy and good for you on that seat belt! Talk about being in 'awe of nature.' Wow.

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    1. Thanks very much, Eric. :) Yes, Entropy and I had a nice little dance. Entropy mostly won, but I walked away at least. :P

      Yay for seatbelts!

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  2. It's refreshing to hear a different perspective. I'm an old school Atheist (I identify more with Nietzsche's psychotic rants against christians than with Dawkins's calm explanation of his lack religious belief, I'm only 27 but I sound a bit like George Carlin in his last years), so, yeah, I get pissed off at people a lot, and lately I've been totally intolerant towards people's attitudes when something bad happens. You know what I'm talking about: "He had cancer, what a tragedy, but god spared him, it's a miracle!". Well, no, you stupid fuck, science saved him. In any case, your imaginary god gave him the cancer in the first place. I can't wrap my head around people's flawed logic. Their cherrypicking of reality to justify their delusions.

    You have been in a car accident, you just destroyed thousands of dollars of property, where close to death, and are slightly injured. Being a reasonable person, you are happy to have walked away from it, and are recovering, and that's about it. Now, a religious person is by default unreasonable, but let's say, for the sake of argument, that god exists, and you just had this awful accident. You should be pissed off at god for getting you into that accident. Why the fuck do you punish me like this? you should be asking. Instead, people say "well, he could have killed me, o god you are so merciful". Wrap that around your head ...

    /rant

    Anyway, thank you for your post. That's a refreshing attitude in an increasingly nuts world.

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    1. Ha, yes, I understand and sometimes even agree with you. :)

      I especially agree that it's crazy how religious people think when faced with a challenge. It boggles my mind. I find it exceedingly frustrating too!

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  3. Great post! Love your attitude. Best regards.

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  4. What a wonderful post & a wonderful attitude. Glad you're all right!

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    1. Thanks so much! I really appreciate your kind words. :)

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  5. Man, something about that car just isn't right at all! Seriously, I'm glad you're all right, though. Now, when you tell people what happened and they say, "But for the grace of God--" interrupt them with, "I'm an atheist," and walk away.

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    1. You know, Mike, 99% of my friends (especially on FB) are all non-religious. My family knows I'm an atheist, so not a single person said that to me. I was expecting at least one "thank God you're ok!" but was refreshingly spared.

      I would have used it as a gentle way to remind them that I am an atheist, though. :)

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  6. I am so glad you are okay, and thankful that I still have your inspiring words to ponder. Thanks Neece, you're the bestest!

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    1. Thank you so much, Joe! Wow, you really made my day! :)

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  7. I'm glad you are okay too.

    --Gerald

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  8. Wow, how scary ... I just wanted to add my happiness to the others' here and say that I'm very glad you made it out of that safely. And thanks for sharing your insights with us.

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  9. I hope you recover well. Sorry to hear about you losing your car. Also hope everything goes well enough dealing with insurance.

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    1. Thanks very much! I can't wait to find another car. And yes, hopefully the insurance company won't take us to the cleaners. I have low expectations with them, though. :P

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  10. Neece-
    So glad you're ok.Many look to invisible powers to help them in times like that, be they heavenly (invisible)or otherwise (invisible). The invisible power was in the goodness of those who did help you.Kick ass with the insurance racketeers-that's all they really are!
    My son showed me a cartoon; the top half showed the 'top half' of an alligator, and the caption was "a person with an imaginary friend is called insane";the bottom (with the rest of the alligator) said, "when lots of people have an imaginary friend, they call it religion". Rings of Maher! Talk to you later this week on here;hope ya feel better.
    Prof M

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    1. Thanks Prof. M! I can't remember who said that famous quote. It is escaping me at the moment. But I've heard it before.

      Yes, the invisible power was definitely in the kindness of strangers. :)

      Everything is going as well as can be expected with the insurance company. I really am glad I have this company. Overall, they take good care of us, better than any other company we've ever had insurance with.

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  11. Neece, I'm glad you're unhurt. Thanks to the auto engineers - not an invisible (pink?) power - for designing a car that protected you. That design did it's job. The design by humans without "divine" help.

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    1. Yes! Thanks Subaru for doing such a great job making a safe car! My next car is going to be a Subaru. In fact we were looking at models that were within a year of this one and different colors, but basically the same exact car. :P

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  12. Thank goodness for the invisible pink LOLcat that saved you from the (also invisible, and silent) meteor that was about to smash you inside the overturned car (as pictured above). ;-)

    Glad you are OK. Thanks for wearing your seat belt, more people should. Sorry about your car, but it can be replaced.

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    1. Tomato! That's so true! Thank Ceiling Cat for saving me from that meteor that I didn't see, because it was invisible and silent!

      Yes! I Believe in seatbelts! I would probably still be in a lot of pain if I had not had it on.

      Yes, I'm sorry about my car too, but you're right, it can be replaced.

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