
Lately keeping up Heaving Dead Cats been really tough with problems behind the scenes. I thought for sure I'd never work them out, but somehow I think I managed it.
Anyway, right when I was feeling pretty bleak about the future of HDC, I received an email that makes it all worth it. I got it from a nice man we'll call Abraham:
Hi Neece: I found your "Heaving Dead Cats" blog via the "Atheist/Catholic" blog. As I turned 50 earlier this year, I have done a lot of thinking about what and how I believe. In part from things you have said, and in part because of other issues, I realize that the best explanation about why there are things like "natural disasters", and debilitating illness is that if there is a "God", he/she/it is not involved in the things today. I know that a basic tenant of Christianity is that God is involved in things now. So, I guess that I am close to becoming a practical atheist (and it is scary). I realize that I have always been skeptical about miracles, either today, or in history, so I know I must embrace that. I have more of an issue about how things came into being if there is no God. Right now, I see God more as an "it", something that started it all, and does not interfere in things. I live close to a secular, liberal arts college, so I am sure there are atheists either involved in the college, or involved in the UU fellowship (I know from having attended in the past that the UU is open to atheists, and there is at least one there). I will say thank you for your assistance in helping me to think about things of this nature.
... I will keep you in touch on my journey towards atheism (which I am sure will be a complete journey). I had rejected the idea of eternal damnation about 10 years ago, so I did not have that to concern myself with. If I can figure out how the universe started, I think I can fully embrace the atheism that my head says is right.
For atheists who are out of the closet, it can be kind of frustrating at times, dealing with people who treat you differently just because you don't believe in their fairy tales and dogma. I've tried to have friendly discussions with True Believers, and not argue with them. It almost invariably fails. I've tried to keep religion off the table with family members and just have a secular relationship with them. They often can't seem to manage it. I've received many vitriolic emails from religious people through this site or others I've worked on, simply because I have an opinion that differs from their narrow worldview and/or because I'm promoting things they hate, like science and critical thinking.
It's amazing how religious people (who think they are morally superior) can be so hateful. No matter how reasonable I try to be, it seems that sometimes just my godless presence is enough to offend a True Believer, and that I actually speak my mind reminds them how "persecuted" they are.
Sigh! And you know, to be honest, when I read what happens around the country and around the world in the name of religion, I get pretty damned offended too. Most of the time, I'm quite happy to live in a quiet peace with people of differing worldviews. We can agree to disagree. But when you try to force your beliefs down my throat, or hurt others with it, I get really upset about that, and rightly so.
So when I get an email that says that I helped someone in some small way, "my cup runneth over" with happiness. I don't think that Abraham has to agree with me, or that he has to become an atheist. I'm just thrilled that I helped someone to think about things in a way that hopefully expanded their horizons or made them question their indoctrinated beliefs. These emails invigorate me.
What could be more wonderful than that?
So I told Abraham that a local UU church and his local college campus are both great places to find a friendly community, not to mention a local atheist/skeptical/humanist/freethinker group that might be in his area. They are popping up everywhere! :)
Now, regarding Abraham's dilemma of how the universe began, it's one of those mysteries we don't have a definitive answer for yet.
It's a wonderful mystery how the universe started. I recommended
The Grand Design by Stephen Hawking (I haven't gotten to read it yet but it's on my list at some point, and I've heard interviews of Hawking talking about it). Hawking is one of the smartest people on the planet in his field (albeit not perfect of course, since he's got rather strong ideas about aliens, but hey, we all have our idiosyncrasies!). I think he has the most helpful hypotheses for how the universe as we know it began, but of course, we really don't know. The LHC - Large Hadron Collider - will hopefully answer more questions about the Big Bang, but we can never know what came before that. Unless you listen to string theorists like Michio Kaku, who sometimes sounds like he's completely off his rocker. :P
But, I'd rather have questions that can never be answered than answers that can never be questioned. I think we know so much, considering how long in the history of our species that we've been searching earnestly for those answers. Science is getting us closer, but like I said, we might never have the complete picture.
That, of course, does not mean that religion has the answers though. Just slapping the "God Did It" label on things says nothing. It simply stops us from asking any more questions. It's like your mother saying, "because I said so, now stop asking questions and eat your Brussels sprouts!"
And really, which is more helpful?